Mutlipolar

One of the blogs in the Sunday rag that I sometimes enjoy is called ‘all men are liars’.

In truth, all people are liars.

We lie to fit in. To some degree or another we are all chameleons – we sprout mushy half-truths that vary according to the social situation, and these ease the burden of co-existence.

I have a sort of built-in dislike of hypocrisy, which means that over time I have became more and more aware of the inconsistencies in my own half-truths. I was a great chameleon in my day, but I became more and more aware of the lies I was telling myself.

So I started merging my truths which creates another set of problems. It means that it is harder to fit into every aspect of the external environment. You get labelled as different or odd or difficult, or even as HFA by the unkind.

Also, some things break; you can’t fit into every situation if you are a monocoque personality.

The alternatives are to (A) perfect ‘project chameleon’ and go to your grave a happy hypocrite, or (B) invent a bunch of personalities and become socially multipolar; this only works if you can firewall all your personalities within your skull.

The latter approach has its risks too – sometimes the personalities clash or the external environment won’t allow you to have them all. And at some deep level the self-lies might be catalogued and start weighing on your conscience.

There is no perfect solution – it is the human condition.