Why don’t I push you to do better at school?
Firstly, it wouldn’t work. You’d just get pissed off with me and our relationship would suffer. My choice is this; Lola doing so-so at school, or Lola doing so-so at school and also being pissed off with her dad.
Secondly, I think the school system sucks and if I was you I’d skip it. And I don’t want to be a hypocrite. Why “sucks”? Well, they don’t ask you want you want to learn, or how you want to learn it, and they assume parents will be on their kids’ back at all times. Basically, our schooling system is designed to push you into the wage/slave funnel, from where you will earn the means to consume well beyond your needs but also where contentment & enlightenment is virtually impossible.
As an aside, you’re like me; you learn better by ‘doing’ than regurgitating data. That is, you need a purpose and then you learn well. Schools rarely offer this opportunity.
Thirdly, what’s the outcome? Well you do well and you end up using your marks to become a doctor, lawyer or similar and become one of those wage slaves that want to commit suicide at 40. Most people want the “best” for their child because it reflects “well” on them, that is, they want the best for themselves. And “best” just means earns the maximum amount of money and status; it’s so stupid. If you want to have 4 kids and live poor and happily in a country cottage; that is all good by me.
Fourth, I think the days of wage security are coming to an end. Robotics, Automation and AI will make most if not all professions obsolete pretty soon. So it’s time wasted, perfecting the art of schooling because just as you are graduating you will find the demand for professionals is on the wane. In our capitalist economic system, once things are past “peak demand” the reward/price drops as the derivative of the demand. An odd outcome based on the discounted forecasting of future demand – NPV if you like. So the rosy future for professionals is very short-lived from where we are today.
Fifth, I want you to find your own way in life and not be guided/forced down some path that isn’t you, and ends up making you unhappy. You are super smart and already wise, so you have the means to find your own way in life. You don’t have to join the dots that everyone else does. If I can grant you this mantra only as a parent then I will see my job as well done. But already you are wise beyond your years, so I think we are on the right path.
Sixth, I’m going to be there to help you out once you find your path. What you need then, and what I am good at working with, is enthusiasm. You don’t seem to have this for school. But you will have it for something else, I am sure. At some time in the future we will work together to make your desires come true. Note; not your ‘dreams’ – dreams are generally too weird for everyday living.
I have noticed that almost everyone I talk to thinks that I should push/encourage/tutor you through school. From my mum, Roscoe, random strangers, you name it. The depth and breadth of the type of people with this view is startling. They are all drinking the same Kool Aid and none of them seems to have stopped to consider their position rationally. Even those that are in a position to do so. This smacks of a religion to me; that is, a whole bunch of people that believe in some bullshit because everyone else does. I hope that, if nothing else, I have taught you to see through religions.
Besides you are not doing that badly at school. With a minimum of effort you seem to be passing everything and staying below the radar. That seems pretty smart to me. If you fall off the charts in the next year or so we can discuss what you want to do at that stage. That is, get some professional help and stay in the dumb race, or drop out and take another direction in life.
