For Nicola:
“I recognize that the courage, determination and effort made by many generations of feminists in the 19th and 20th centuries in removing the systematic bias against women in Western societies.
I feel, in the 21st century, that women like me are reaping the benefits of their efforts, and I thank them for that.
In my life I have had just about all the choices open to me that my male colleagues have had, and in some cases, more And I have made the most of these opportunities, at least where I wanted to.
This is why I eschew the current women’s clubs and the like that are still promoting further “rights” for women. I have the rights they claim they are missing. It seems disingenuous to me to continue asking for more, especially when more has been delivered.
In effect, you can call me a post-feminist. And I do not tolerate well faux-feminism in an age where it appears to be solely self-serving. Even if it is self-delusion, I see no excuses.
I also differentiate between equality in opportunities and equality in outcomes. If some women have had the opportunities and not made the most of them, then it is especially unethical for them to call for more rights, absent effort or capabilities.
I recognize that men and women have differences and I have no interest in denying these differences. I like being a woman and have no interest in suppressing my basic womanhood just so I can access some privilege that has supposedly been denied to me by the patriarchy.
When I look at rights around the world, I note that many people of both genders had have far fewer opportunities than I have had. I do not feel comfortable wanting more by right, when there are other far more deserving.
Finally, rights must come with obligations. I would like to see those calling for more rights to state what new obligations they plan on adopting.”