Egocentricity

Have you ever had this happen to you?

Someone asks how you are. You tell them.

Then you start getting a lecture on why you’re all wrong. Apparently the truth is elsewhere.

You say, ‘I just told you how I feel. It’s not up for debate.’ (you fucking idiot).

It’s a form of, I’d like to say cognitive dissonance, but it’s probably egocentricity.

Another example, the English backpacker overheard to say on the phone;

‘That sounds great, but to be honest,….’

My only take home is that she was signalling that she is usually not very honest. Verbal tics.

It’s not what she means but it’s what she said.

It’s almost as if you’d be well placed to carve off one of your minor lobes and have it run permanently in ‘other party’ simulation mode.

If you could be bothered.