Retrospectively
It is possible that I realised quite early on in my last marraige that my ex-wife had no intentions of being a good wife – she didn’t want to work, she didn’t like sex, she didn’t want kids but she did like moaning about her lot in life, even so.
The smart move would have been to leave her, very early on in the story.
However I am determined and I though I could change her. Plus I didn’t want the fuss.
And in the back of my mind, I knew I could satifactorily punish her if she was taking the piss. Which she was.