Coercion
You can’t, or couldn’t, blame a bloke for trying.
At one end we have hard coercion and rape. At the other we have mild convincing and smiles all around.
In the middle we have soft coercion, or hard convincing, and the possible influence of alcohol and drugs.
It’s this middle ground that will keep the lawyers fed so long as the victims maintain their rage.
Some victims have no choice. They have to act to survive.
Others do it out of fashion.
There’s no obvious solution.