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The other night I had arranged for a couple to come and see the Citroen motor car, with a view to perhaps buying the beast.

I told Nic, 8pm. I then reminded her twice in fact, just before they arrived.When they did arrive I raced out into the dark to meet them. After a static review of the monster they asked for a test drive. Of course I said, and off we went.

Nic, at home and busy with the kids, hadn’t noticed me leaving, had no idea what I was up to, in fact. Let’s call it industrial deafness.

After a whole 15 minutes I arrived home to find her in a complete funk. She was fuming that I had left the house unannounced (in her mind). She even announced that the relationship was over. This was serious.

Whence came her anger? We may never know. I for one wouldn’t ask a counsellor; they would just start digging for some past event in her life and hang it on that. For example, she has abandonment issues from when her dad left the family home. That sort of rubbish.

They might be right. But they probably aren’t. There’s no way of finding out, so they’re on a complete winner with this sort of circus trick.

My view; it doesn’t matter. You have to take the person as they are, all of them. You can’t cherry pick the attributes you’d like to keep with the intent of weeding out the others.

If you’re not willing to take all of them, take none of them.

In the case of Nic, this was so out of character as to be of no consequence to me. If this lights up one day in 360, I’m still way ahead of the other poor bastards weeding each other to death on a daily basis.

And, to be fair, I’ll try to build in some filters into my behaviour so as to avoid a repeat. I’ll do my best, but experience tells me I’ll probably slip up.