Past perfect

I’ve decided not to look into the past in order to explain the present, as it pertains to me.

I’ve noticed that people use the past in many ways to explain themselves.

For example, “I grew up in a Christian family that was so boring” as an explanation for why “I’m attracted to extravagant risk takers”. Alternatively, “my mother was a con artist that lived with constant risk” so “I’m attracted to the same”.

There’s always a way to twist what was as an explanation for what is. So I don’t.

Also it’s lazy and doesn’t work.