Obsession

What do you call something that is addictively desirable until it is obtained, thereafter becoming less and less valuable until it is essentially worthless?

Well it’s not a thing at all. It’s a psychological condition. Let me explain in the context of a cheating husband.

If a husband cheats again and again, then it is likely that he’s got a deep addiction for something, and it is certainly not the thing that is addictively desirable until it is obtained.

On this, the holy side of the DSM, most people that have a sexual addiction also have substantive negative beliefs running around in their skulls.

They may feel unworthy or they may feel that no one can genuinely love them.

These feelings have causes. And effects. And they are the bullseye of the target, if change is desired.

A deep sense of insecurity drives addicts to compartmentalize their sexual and intimate lives, thereby avoiding intimacy altogether in some instances

After all, being intimate with a spouse requires that one feels worthy of such love.

In some cases, cheating can serve to temporarily make the addict feel more powerful and less insecure.

But more importantly, the addict feels that he has nothing to offer other than his sexual attractiveness.

He will be addicted to flirting and inappropriate behavior. He will be irresistibly drawn to people that find him attractive.

These addicts will continually seek to sexualize all relationships, even business relationships.

Each new affair will quickly become an unwanted intimacy. The addict will move on, and then on, and on again.