Self Everything

Self-esteem has always seemed like a daft idea to me. In the sense that it’s the by-product of other things and not something that can be modified on purpose with a focus on the outcome itself.

Self-compassion is a lovely idea for people in turmoil but self-empathy seems a tad more balanced since it catches the upside as well as the downside.

At the end of the day, the root of the problem comes down to self-judgement. Whose values are you using to judge yourself, your own or the perceived values of others?

It’s the hardest trick for us social animals to perfect me-thinks; to be surrounded by judging types (and we all are to one degree or another) and to neither judge them, nor absorb their judgements as metrics by which you might judge yourself, nor even imagine how they are judging you.

I like the idea of one day being totally consistent with my own values, totally free of self-judgement.

Some ways to go!

A start is to appreciate all the differences in oneself, rather than assuming that one aspect of one’s personality or self is the ‘good’ one.

Another very important aspect is understanding; which is the very purpose of this blog diary. That is, the understanding of the world, other people and myself.

I’ll never agree with everyone, but if I can eradicate that very concept of agreement from my own inner dialogue then I’m on the way.

It’s a work in progress and I’m sure by the time I’m done, like all human endeavor, I’ll be obsolete!