Whistling Pigs

What’s the word for spending years figuring out something and then not wanting to believe the answer?

Denial!

It’s very easy to ignore an answer supplied by another.

But one that you’ve worked hard on your ownsome can’t be so easily disregarded.

In the case that I’m thinking of, the answer is such that I don’t even want to convince anyone else of the conclusion that I have arrived at.

For a start they won’t believe me.

But worse still, it’s a dead-end dry gulch; there’s no tricky ways to use the information to change the equation.

This insight, unfortunately, leads to either disillusionment or dissonance.

Mine, or that of others.

I prefer not to be the bearer of unwanted news.

In any case, one can’t expect thanks from the pig that suddenly can whistle but finds itself in a vacuum.

For myself I prefer disillusionment because I am not the fool that fools himself, at least on this subject.

Looking for a positive angle, this gives me an opportunity for a restart. A fresh approach with a new focus.

It’ll take time but it can be done.

In fact I already know one answer.

It was given to me a year or so ago by a person a little wiser in such matters.