Ugly stick

The ugly woman wore her ugliness with pride. It was the only way she could deal with the pain of it – overtly.

The odd thing is that I don’t think she is that ugly. Not overtly pretty or anything, but if I met her I wouldn’t think ‘ugly’.

So by defining herself in the negative she is in the same trap as those that define themselves in the positive

I think the real trick is to define oneself by other things such as family, goodness, intelligence, etc. When one excels at these other people won’t and don’t judge one by looks alone, or at all.

It’s that attitude that one takes, i.e what is important to oneself, that people pick up on and run with. If ugliness is your issue, in the positive or the negative, people will focus on that naturally.

We can all naturally sniff the fears and phobias and emotional indolences of others.