Succour

One of the personality traits that I have had to unlearn, for my sanity’s sake, is the natural tendency to feel very responsible for how other people are feeling.

People who don’t have this problem can’t imagine how risky it is get succour from one who does.

On paper its sounds like a nice to have, but … it does nobody a favour. If someone else’s emotional state can’t be fixed, but feeling so responsible for them, one tends to construct castles of make believe for them.

In many cases the long term prognosis is not good. So this is one trait I have had to work hard to remove.