Relationships

How do you judge a person? By the good things they do and say, or by the very predictable and intermittent ‘dog bites’ you are going to receive from them?

If you understand someone can you forgive them their faults? Especially if you know they developed their faults through no fault of their own.

How much do you give and how much do you forgive? All relationships have to be balanced to be healthy – an equal sharing of the giving and the forgiving is ideal. If one is doing the taking and the other is doing the giving then the survival of the relationship depends on even further emphasis of entrenched character traits which do the owner no good at all. In fact relying on these is like feeding an addiction.

Passing over a lot of thought to get to the end point, any relationship (and I am not just talking about couples here) depends critically on both people having, and further developing, the mirror they have on their own behaviours and on their own souls. Self-awareness and caring in both people in a relationship – that’s the starting point.